Living in a small town I learned a long time ago that people like to talk. They will talk about anyone and anything just to have something to talk about. They also do it to keep from having to face their own issues. This is something that I have never been able to just let roll off my back. What most people don’t know about me is that I am really insecure. Knowing someone is talking about me in a negative way really works on those feelings. It’s the human in me I guess you could say.
The funny part about the small town talk is most of the time it isn’t even the correct information to begin with. People know about things in your life before you even know (because they never happened)! What makes this okay? I will never know!!
It has taken me 29years to learn that what those people are saying doesn’t matter. It matters to them because they need conversation pieces, but it doesn’t matter to me. Does it hurt to hear you were the topic of the conversation?! Of course it does! No one wants to think that a big group of people were standing around bad mouthing you and you didn’t have the chance to stick up for yourself! What I have learned is that those people are bored.. Those people need someone else to talk about so they don’t have to talk about their own problems. They make themselves feel better and look better by dragging others down. Is it right? No! Will it ever stop? No!
If someone needs someone to talk about to keep from facing their own issues then so be it. Talk. Make up all the things and spread them like wildfire, but know that in the end it wont make you feel better. You still have your own issues you need to face. They won’t go away just because you are dragging someone else’s name through the mud.
Something else those people should know is that just because you “heard” something doesn’t make it accurate information… why is it that as humans we like to gossip? We need something better to do with our time! Seriously yall, why are we so mean as humans?! I would love to live in a world where this kind of thing didn’t exist but that will never happen. In the meantime I will pray for you! I pray that your conversations are dull & no one cares what you say. I pray that you find something better to do with your time than what your doing now! I pray that you grow up eventually! I pray that you change..
After 29 years I can finally say that I am glad I can be a topic of someone’s conversations. If someone thinks I’m important enough to talk about when I’m not there then I’m flattered. Besides, all those other people need a break so I’m happy to have a turn! Just remember, you don’t know the truth about anything unless you are directly involved. Lies will get you no where in life, and I’m sure your mama taught you better!
I pray that Matt and I can teach our girls that this is not the kind of behavior anyone should want to partake in.. I pray we can show them that being kind is the better way. I pray we can teach them right from wrong, but above all else I pray I can teach them to not give a damn what anyone else thinks about them or has to say!
If your dealing with this kinda thing then hold your head high. You are the only one who knows the truth so hold on to that. Be you and be proud of that! If your the one sitting around talking about others then shame on you. You know better! Your better than the lies you believe to be truths. Your better than the gossip. Face your issues without bringing anyone else down with you! Most importantly GROW UP!
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