Category: motherhood

Adults & Assumptions

What is the age old saying about making assumptions? When you ASSUME it makes an ASS out of YOU and ME!

It is human nature to assume things, and I do not dispute that. I think the more important thing to think about is what you do with your assumptions. Do you keep it to yourself or do you tell someone else what you only assume?

Assume: suppose to be the case, without proof.

Oxford Languages

Reading that definition above tells me that to make an assumption is to not have the facts before making up your mind about something. That seems like a dangerous game to play as an adult. What do you think? We live in a world that never ceases to amaze me, and because of that I try not to ever assume things! Like I said we are all human and that means sometimes I assume things too, and it never ends well! Let me tell you what has put me onto this subject today and you can decide for yourself how you feel about it.

This year my children started school in a different district than where we live along with other kids they used to go to school with. One of the girls who also transferred is my daughters BFF and they are in the same classroom this year. I personally was so thankful for this since it is a new school and it’s a hard thing to do! It never occurred to me that their sexuality would be in question by an adult at school within a week of their first day there!

Let me set the scene for you so you can get the whole picture. You are 10 yrs old starting a brand new school where you do not know anyone else. Your BFF is also starting this new school and in your class. During the day you do everything together because you haven’t even had time to make any new friends yet. During gym you walk together while laughing about who knows what. You simply do what girls in elementary school do with friends!

The BFF’s mom works at the new school (such a blessing for us) and another adult at the school asked her if our girls were more than just friends…. She asked this because she said our girls were “friendly” with each other! That is such a wild assumption to make about elementary school kids. I am not naïve to the fact that in this world some elementary school kids do identify as lesbian/gay, and I do not in any way have an issue with that. I do have an issue with the fact that it would be the first assumption an adult would make when seeing friends play together at school!

What happened to the days when it was normal for girls to play with girls and boys to play with boys without having to worry if someone might think they were to “friendly” with one another and call them a couple? Since when do parents have to be concerned that adults at school will label their child at an early age before the child even truly knows what the labels mean. Parents have to worry that those same labels will cause other adults and kids to treat them differently and potentially make this new school a bad environment for them. What happened to just letting kids be kids?

My daughter got into the van and was just so confused as to why an adult would even think that about her and her BFF. I had to explain to her that some people simply do not know the age old saying about assumptions. I told her she could not change the fact that some adults will always assume things, but she could make sure she was never one of those people from here on out!

I guess the moral of this story is to be careful which assumptions you are making in your day to day life & if you plan to still make assumptions keep them to yourself!

In our Nutshell

Ya know those days when you feel like you just need to bust out of the house?! The days when it feels like you never go anywhere, you don’t see anyone over the age of 8 all day long and you crave meaningful adult conversation like nothing else.. Those days come around at this house alot with me being a stay at home mom & auntie. I love this time I get to bond with all of my babies and I would not change one single thing but that does not mean that I am not human. I do still have days where it seems everything goes wrong and I am failing at life. Just like everyone else!

I have thought a million and one times about how much I miss working full time over the last 5 years, but today I realize why I am even more thankful that I have the opportunity to be right where I am. This world is a crazy and scary place right now. We have sickness taking over the world, presidents who refuse to leave the Whitehouse, people who think the law doesn’t apply to them & people all over the county forgetting that they ever really had morals at all (if they ever did).. As a human being living in this world it is scary.. yes, but as a mom living in this world and raising kids in this world and being responsible for making sure they grow up to be responsible, living and caring adults with morals it is terrifying!!

Which brings me to why my little Nutshell is exactly where I am supposed to be… If I went back to work full time I would not be there when they needed me, I would miss all those first times, I would not be the one there to protect them when those crazy people strike, I would not be the one there to teach them what they need to know & they would be forming a bond with someone other than me! Is it easy being a stay at home mom? No! Is it easy being a working mom? No!

This parenting gig is no joke & I don’t take that responsibility lightly! I hope that in the end, when the kids that I take part in caring for are adults, people can look at their actions and see how hard I worked to raise good humans! I pray that they grow up and act better than these people I keep seeing on the news acting a fool. Those people have either forgot what their parents taught them or they just don’t care but either way I pray mine never make the news for doing something as stupid as I see on the news today! Like I said parenting is hard. It doesn’t matter if you work full time or stay at home 24/7. We all are doing the very best we can and if we aren’t then it is time we step it up and raise our kids to be better! It is our job to make sure these kids turn out BETTER!

You got this parents! I have faith in you & I have faith in me! If you are a full time working mama then I hope when u get home and get to kiss those sweet kid cheeks it brings u all the joy in the world and all your worries melt away. If you are a stay at home momma then I hope today something happens that shows you that you are right where you need to be and all your worries melt away! Either way no matter which one u are know that I see you. I see how hard your working for your babies & I am proud of you!

Keep on keeping on parents! You got this! I’ll be in my Nutshell with these three wild hoodlums thanking God that I am able to be here with them while I still can be! 😘